I think the agony may be good for us. For the emotionally healthy person, having your heart broken is a necessary part of growth. Those who have been on both sides of the equation are sometimes sadder but wiser- realizing after the fact that the way a heart is broken can make the mending easier.
Broken hearts occur most often in our 20’s and 30s when people tend to try out different relationships before settling down. Both men and women begin heeding the sound of their biological clock and often push relationships that just aren’t going to work.
Don't text your goodbyes. Facing up to the person may not be easy, but it’s the best thing for both of you in the long run because it gives you a sense of closure. Use ‘I’ statements and tell the person that you have really enjoyed his or her company and care for the person deeply but it's not a good fit. The secret is to take full responsibility for the goodbye, which still doesn't make the split pleasant but it helps keep the person’s self-esteem intact.
If you are on the fence with someone, cut things off early. Don’t wait until after that special weekend all because you want to soften the blow or give things time when you already sense something isn't quite right. You are wasting their time, being dishonest and it makes the person feel even more foolish once you do break up. Those who have broken hearts say that there are dos and don’ts when it comes to plucking out Cupid’s arrow. I’m one of them. When you break up with someone, you’re in control, but when you have your heart broken, you have no control. While some can’t get past the pain, others simply dive into work and numb the pain. Staying busy helps a lot. One day you'll love again... creating great memories is worth the pain in the long run...even if you have to start over again and again.
Whether you’re being dumped or are doing the dumping, we are really durable creatures. Although someone fresh from a breakup may scoff at these words, time does indeed heal wounds.
If you’ve had your heart broken, let it run its course. And if you’re going to do the heart breaking, do it right.
